Divorce can be an ugly and emotionally draining process, but a custody battle can take that experience to a whole other level. Fighting for custody of children can bring out the worst in people and create lasting damage. However, there are ways to make the process easier for the kids and everyone involved. If you want to come out on the better side of a custody battle and do the right things for your children, follow these 5 steps below.
Consult with Experts
Before you go to court, it’s wise to talk to an expert who can give you the advice you need to make a well-informed decision. Going to court does not only cost a lot of money, but it’s also time-consuming and stressful for your children. Mediation is often more effective in certain cases. So, talk to a lawyer first about your odds of winning the case and what can be expected from beginning to end. They have valuable experience in this field and can direct you towards the best approach for a favourable result.
Stay Calm and Collected
Everything you do and say during a child custody battle can weigh heavily on the decision of the judge. If you act out or do something inappropriate, it can impact your chances of winning custody. It’s best to stay calm and collected during the process, no matter how the other party acts or what they say. Sadly, in most custody battles, people will say and do whatever is possible to place themselves in the best light. A judge can usually detect this, so take the time to center yourself, remember why you’re there and avoid contact with your ex if needed.
Keep Your Kids Out of It
It’s also important to keep your kids out of the battle since they’ll already be undergoing enough stress and anxiety as it is. They should never be used as tools to win a custody battle. And if the judge grants the other parent visitation rights or temporary custody, follow their rules. Stepping out of line and abusing the visitation rights will only cause further issues for you and your children.
Lying or creating stories to your advantage will only backfire when you’re in court. Resist the temptation to accuse the other parent of any erroneous wrongdoing. Even if you have heard rumors or believe it may have happened, unless you have proof, it’s best to let stay quiet and inform your lawyer so they can handle it properly.
Be A Good Parent
It’s easy to get caught up in the custody battle and forget about what matters most in life – your children. Every minute you get with your children should be focused on their needs and health – not the custody battle. Talking about the situation will only confuse and upset them. Try to reassure them that everything is okay and that you are there for them no matter the outcome.
At Zuber and Brioux, our legal team specializes in family law. If you’re facing a child custody battle, talk to us first about all of your options. We have been serving families across Ottawa, Kingston, and southern Ontario for more than 30 years. Our trustworthy and dedicated team are here to help you and your family find a peaceful result for you and your children. Contact us today for a free, no-obligation consultation.